How I gave my bullies permission to keep hurting me. Are queer movies answering this question? The film Women Talking addresses it in a more profound manner than any other film I’ve ever seen. When does forgiveness give permission? When I was a queer kid growing up in the late ‘sixties, I was bullied, pegged for being a fag, femboy, a girl, homo, a queer, and that list goes on and on. These boys would beat me up, shove me up against a locker, and degrade me with physical an